Richard Benton: Community impact of learning pt. 2
Richard Benton is back for part 2! In this episode we continue to talk about using language learning as a force of good and also the Polyglot Conference(s).
December 27, 2015 · 1 hr 13 min
EP 82: Richard Benton: Community impact of learning pt. 2
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Dr. Richard Benton
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See all →Alright everyone, welcome back to another episode of the Actual Fluency Podcast. This is season three, episode ten, and I'm back with the second edition of the interview with Richard Benton. And um, yeah, that's about it. I just wanted to welcome you, and also just give a little question here. In the last few episodes there've been some really long episodes, and some people have come back to me and say, "Hey, I really like these long, kind of conversational style formats where it's not as focused, focused, it's not as targeted." And I just wanted to ask you, what do you think? You know, is do you mind if an episode is say one and a half hours long? Is that a problem for you as a listener? And if so, if you like the long episodes, would you like me to split them into two episodes? So, like I've done this time, so you get one episode week one and then the other half in the next week. Or would you like to just have one and a half hours or two hours, I mean, I don't know how long I could speak, but you know, do you want just want the full thing at once? That's you know, let me know in the on the website or Twitter, Facebook, you probably know where to find me by now. So, just give me a message and and let me know. And uh, enjoy this second half with Richard Benton.
Yeah, you should probably just also mention your blog, um, Loving Language, the wordpress.com, right?
Mhm. Right.
Uh, just because we've talked about it so many times, that people are probably like, "What where is this blog?" So, probably a good idea to throw the URL out there. Um, there was something uh, community languages, we talked about that. We talked about uh, New York. Oh, yeah, did you have a good time at the conference in New York? I guess we could make a note of that, too.
Oh, yeah, I had such a great, I had such a great time when I went there. Um, you know, I was able you know, the the language strangely enough, the language that I ended up speaking the most was Ukrainian. Um, I I was in, I I I studied in in Ukraine for a year when I was in uh, when I was in university, and I got to a really, I got pretty fluent. I mean, I even because I I made it a a point to to live with Ukrainian families where they spoke Ukrainian at home. So, I spoke Ukrainian all the time at home. Even if I spoke Russian with my friends, I'd speak Ukrainian at home. And like, one of the first people I met walking in the door was I, I unfortunately forgot his name, but I was speaking Ukrainian right off the bat, and he was from uh, uh, Eastern Ukraine. So, we talked a little bit about what was going on in Eastern Ukraine and stuff.
And then I went around the corner, I mean, this is the great thing in New York, went around the corner to buy an apple. I heard the guy was, you know, speaking with an accent. I'm like, "Oh, what's your accent?" And uh, and he was Ukrainian, and he was from the West of Ukraine. And I had and I taught there. I taught some uh, I taught a Hebrew class in Western Ukraine one time. Talk about not having any materials, try teaching Hebrew in Ukrainian. But uh, um, I taught Ukrainian, I taught Hebrew in Ukrainian, and um, but I had lived in in Western Ukraine and so, um, you know, he was he was from the city where I lived and stuff. But he was just the guy selling apples there, you know. If you're ever, if you want to practice your Arabic, just uh, the coffee carts in New York City, you know. So, I had such a good time with that.
Um, I had, you know, I got to um, uh, I don't want to name, I don't want to name all the people I enjoyed hearing and speaking with because I'm going to leave people out. But I got, um, I you know, in meeting you face to face, that was a really fun opportunity for me. Um, and uh, so I'll do a shout-out to to you, Chris. That was that was great. And um,
Well, thank you. Well, it's good fun that you talk because yeah, and I was sitting in on your talk and I found it very interesting. So, I wanted to come over and and say, "Nice talk." And connect and possibly to bring you on the podcast. And then what do you say? The first thing, I didn't even get a word in. You're like, "Oh, Chris, I love your podcast and and uh, thank you so much for this and this." I'm like, "But you know, you just talked."
Really funny, yeah. Yeah, you've been talking for the last year. So, uh, you know, I was listening to you a lot more than you listened to me. So, that's great. But I, you know, in hearing the different talks, um, was was uh, was really helpful. I mean, the endangered language project, that's you know, that's one thing that pops out in my mind. It's really near and dear to my heart. And then, um, the talk about uh, learning African languages, Khadija, um, her talk about learning African languages, of course, is near near to my heart. So, I'll speak of those. Um, I wasn't able to make it to Michael Erard's talk because it was during my uh, during my talk. So, uh, that was unfortunate. Um, but I had a I I got to talk to him about his talk anyway, and now they're all going up online, so I'll be able to see it. And, um, so, yeah. And then Barry Farber, I mean, you know, the like the original like low-tech solution. I did his solution, like where he's like, "Get a newspaper and a highlighter." And I've done that. I've gotten the newspaper and the highlighter and put it on note cards and read my grammar book, you know, like he has in his book. So, um, being able to see his talk was a real delight. So, I was really happy for the effort that those guys, that Richard and Alex, and Ellen put in to to organizing it. It was so good.
And, um, being in New York was really nice. And I love, I love being back in New York. The area it was in was super cool. Um, I'm being downtown like that is so nice. And, um, so, yeah, I had a I had a great time. And it was also just being in the in that milieu is really inspiring, too, because I, um, I knew that I was at the Polyglot Conference. I'm like, "Okay, Rich, you're going to be speaking languages. That's why you're here. That's you had to give your wife a reason why you had to be out of town for the weekend and why this is super important, and you had to spend this money to do this. So, you got to do it." So, when I got on the subway, I had my ears open. So, as I took the train from the from the airport to the subway, I'm like, "Oh, there's French. You got to speak French." And the guy didn't want to speak French because uh, uh, the person he was with who didn't speak French. So, he didn't speak French very long with me. But like, "Okay, I did it. I tried. I put in my time." Then I went to got on the subway and I heard some people speaking something next to me. I'm like, "Sounds kind of Portuguese." So, I I asked them something in Portuguese, and they answered. I'm like, "Okay, Rich, we're off to a good start." And that's the thing is like, it really was like, "This is the weekend I'm going to dedicate to my languages." And that's what I think is really, really cool is just like, "I'm going to dedicate myself to this." And, um, it's just kind of like, um, you know, doing doing a marathon after training all this, you know, over the past year, you know. So, it was really fun that way.
And the talks were really good and uh, meeting the people was was really nice. So, it was and I got to meet some old-timers, too. Uh, um, one gentleman I met was in his 80s and from Texas, and he'd been learning Spanish his whole life, and he knew some German and stuff. And he came up from Texas, and he was walking with a cane and stuff. And he uh, was really inspiring to see, you know, where what what he had been doing and stuff. But then meeting, um, a lot of young folks. It was a lot of young folks. I mean, from my, you know, from my point of view, a lot of young folks. And, uh, like you and it was really fun to see people who are excited about this.
Yeah, and even much younger than me as well. You know, those uh, teenagers even, you know, coming in and being, you know, further along than I even I am, you know. So, it's really cool to see this explosion in in language learning in they say America is a monolingual country, right? So, how long is that going to last?
Yeah. Well, 20% 20% of uh, uh, of Americans speak a language other than English at home. So, I blogged about that at one point. It's it's interesting if you look at the numbers. But, yeah, what I want to see, why are they spoken at home? I want them spoken in, I want them spoken in my street. I want them spoken in my stores. I want them spoken in my schools. I want them, I want them in in the state capital, I want them spoken. You know, I don't want them just in the home. That's what I want to see.
Yeah, exactly. That's the the statistic is just a little bit sad at the same time. It's like, yeah, at home. It's nice that they have a language, but why at home? That's so true. But it it does give you a lot of, I I think, if you are American listening, and I know a lot of Americans do listen to this. Um, you know, you don't have to live up to your uh, stigma or your, um, you know, you don't have to be your own stereotype. You know, if you if you if you're determined to learn languages, you can do it. You just have to find the find the people to practice with. You just find the language in the wild and just keep going. Don't, you know, don't let your stereotype rule you because
Right. No, it's in the US, you know, the the the fact that we speak English as uh, as the language, and other languages are not spoken. This is um, this is manufactured. Um, I mean, we, you know, when the first Europeans came to the Americas, uh, you know, there were hundreds of languages that were spoken. There were hundreds of languages spoken in California. Yeah. It was uh, California used to be one of the most linguistically diverse places on the planet. Um, you know, hundreds of languages that were spoken. And, um, and then we have all these immigrants that are constantly coming in speaking all their languages.
Um, there used to be monolingual German towns in Minnesota and Wisconsin. There used to be a lot up until World War One. And you can read historical accounts of the the very brutal persecution of German speakers in the late 19th century.
Right.
Um, you know, and there were monolingual towns. Uh, there was a professor at the University of Wisconsin in Madison who did work on this. There were monolingual German towns up until the 1930s. Monolingual towns. You went into the town, the whole town was speaking German. Not just German, some funny, you know, northern dialect of German. And there's accounts of like, when the new, you know, the the they would send to the old country to get a pastor for the church or something like that. And he would be from Central German. And he would have, he would be from Central Germany. He would have such a hard time fitting in to the culture of this town because they were all Northern Germans, or, you know, that sort of thing.
There is a there's a New Ulm in uh, in Minnesota. And uh, in in Minnesota. And, you know, you when people are from there, they speak English with a German accent. They don't speak German. They speak English with a German accent because their grandparents all spoke German.
Right.
We have it here. How do we bring it out of the homes into the public sphere? And so, I want to do my part. I'm going to say, you know what? I'm going to speak three words of Tagalog or Somali or Amharic or Mong. Mong is the third most widely spoken language in uh, uh, in Minnesota.
Oh, Pennsylvania Dutch or
No, there's all kinds of stuff, you know. It's all around us. Why not put forth the effort as language learners to help bring that into the public sphere? You know, make the world that that we want to see. But we make the world not by imposing it through power, but through lifting up those who are weaker in our community.
They have there is a, I don't know if you've heard of this, there's a Danish city uh, in Iowa, I think. Um, and it's called Elk Horn.
Sure. I know Elk Horn.
It's tiny. It's tiny. And unfortunately, it's kind of not very Danish anymore. Uh, but they pride themselves on on being. So, you know, a hundred years ago, they would definitely be speaking Danish all of them. Uh, but now they send their TV crew out there a few years ago. And there's like two old ladies who speak kind of Danish and it's like, I understand it and I could probably communicate with them, but they insert a lot of English words like in Pennsylvania Dutch. And uh, so it's kind of their own dialect in a way. And then you just all the, let's say, the younger than 80, they just don't speak any. You know, they might understand like two foods and hi or something. Um, so, I think unfortunately for that, um, particular city, that the time is simply over, you know. English is just too big and it's it's it's over.
I still have to go there because they do what what I think is cool that they do is they maintain the Danish traditions. Well, let's call them Danish, but they're sort of pseudo-Danish traditions. Uh, like for instance, they have two food stuffs. One is a sausage, which is obviously served like a main meal. Uh, usually with potatoes and gravy and stuff, uh, like the Danish dishes usually are. And then there's another one which is like deep fried dough balls. It's a bit like donuts, but they're like solid balls. And you dip them in jam and sugar and it's a dessert, you know. It's a nice dessert. Not very healthy, but we usually have it for Christmas. Like, I would not have it for the entire year. And what did they do in the city? Somehow, some guy suggested, "You know, this is good. This is also good. Why don't we just combine them?" So, in the Danish restaurant in Elk Horn, you can get sausage and dough balls. So, and it's like, you know, it tastes great together not together. Uh, but it's just funny to see how they they they seem to latch onto some of the traditions and then they just have no clue about the rest. Uh, like they don't have any, I don't know if Denmark used to be like that. I highly doubt it. I think it's just some kind of misunderstanding at some point. They're like, "Oh, Denmark is cooking this stuff. So, we better serve it together." But they sent some chefs over, some Danish chefs over, and they were just like, "This is not right."
Well, I bet that there was, you know, I bet that there were families who, you know, they they made the the sausage and everything. They made them all like, "We're going to you know, Christmas time or something like that. We're going to have the Danish meal." And um, they all came, you know, and so all the Danish stuff was made on one day. And so, it's like, oh, they go to the restaurant when they want the Danish meal, they get all the, you know, they get everything all at once, you know.
On the same plate, which is the funny thing.
Right.
Can you imagine eating like sausage and then a bite of like really sweet dough balls?
That's funny. That's the Midwest, too. That's the that I I was born in uh, Lincoln, Nebraska. And so, I know that I I know the the area and I know that that's like, there is some kind of funky cuisine going on in the Midwest, and I know that's how it goes. But, you know, it's funny you mention that because we do have towns. I remember when I was a kid, my mom dragged me, when I was a kid, really, when I was young, I was probably six or seven, dragged me to the like uh, uh, Wilber, Nebraska, I think it was. A little tiny town. It was a Czech town. And so, everyone there was, um, Czech. And, um, they would have music and food and stuff. I don't remember very much because I was young, but they would have this festival every year. Um, and uh, uh, yeah, you know, in America, we do have all these different kind of traditions around, you know.
There was, um, my wife does different kinds of uh, folk dancing. And there was a Scandinavian dance she brought me to one time. And, um, it was for the the the the King of Sweden's birthday, which I thought was really funny because I don't know how the Norwegians felt about that, but
Sorry.
the Swedes birthday. But uh,
Whatever, Swedish, whatever.
Whatever. And in and in just to add another layer of America onto it, they they, um, the place they did the dance, they rented out the hall at the Czech and Slovak House. Um, there's a Czech and Slovak social club that they rented out the room for. So, they had, so it was uh, uh, the the Scandinavian dancing at the Czech and Slovak House in Saint Paul, Minnesota. So,
Wow.
You know, we have all these different things around. Um, you know, going out and finding them, you know, you don't have to travel. Because look, I work a full-time job. I have two kids. I have a wife. They're not necessarily interested in moving around all the time. You know, I know a lot of the folks on your program, they're um, they're young folks like, "Hey, go to this country. Hey, you can get a mobile lifestyle." When Benny talks, I I was kind of laughing a little bit because he's like, "Yeah, all you have to do is this and this." I'm like, "Yeah, all you have to do." And as long as you don't have like any, as long as you don't have children who prefer not to move every every year and a half, you know.
Um, and so, but one thing that I've found is that like, you can have a really cool language learning lifestyle just by poking around what's going on around you. You know, growing up in Lincoln, Nebraska, people don't know Lincoln, Nebraska. It's not exactly a destination people go to. But guess what? During the 90s, there was this huge wave of Bosnian refugees that were coming there. Um, you know, we've got refugees. Vietnamese is a really widely spoken language. I remember that as a kid. A lot of people from Vietnam. Um, I remember Kurds, um, there uh, more recently.
Um, and uh, so, you know, there there's different opportunities in the uh, in in towns that you're not, you wouldn't necessarily know about. Um, you know, all these all, you know, we have all these, um, Guatemalans who come here. Well, Guatemalans, a lot of them, Spanish is not their first language.
Right.
Um, you know, I heard a funny story of uh, some missionaries from the US who went down during the summer, a group of kids to go down to help uh, you know, build some houses in a in a poor town in Guatemala. And they were good. They were all, they all prepared and they learned Spanish and everything before they went down there. They went down. They found out the people in the village, no one speaks Spanish.
Right.
That's very
Yeah, that's very brutal.
Yeah, they speak they speak K'iche' and or some dialect of K'iche'. You know, every every valley has a different dialect there. And, um, so, it's so funny. Even those people who are like trying to, um, make those connections, you know, without doing a little bit of research and getting out there a little bit, um, you can make those kinds of mistakes.
But I try to do, you know, at work, you know, you know, I work at a a a a big Fortune 500 company. And we have a couple offices here in the Twin Cities. This is our home office here. And, um, but there's a lot, there's people from all over the place that are in our offices. And so, I was like, "Okay, so people are trying to learn languages. People are supposed to be learning about, you know, how do you work in a global company and stuff like that? Here they are. Here are people who know how to work in a global company." The country they came from and the country and the the country they're in now. They already know how to span these different uh, these different cultures. And, um, so I try to do more with interacting with them. How do we bring the cultures and languages that they know into our workplace in order to be a more effective company? You know, because we've got comp, we've got uh, uh, offices and on every continent except Antarctica.
And, um, we've got uh, uh, and so, I do, um, when I have meetings with colleagues, you know, I I'm in IT. And so, I have a a monthly one-on-one with my uh, colleague in Moscow. So, every month we speak for a half-hour in Russian. And it's the only time he speaks to North America in Russian.
Right. That's the amazing language exchanges within the company. Yeah, that's a good idea.
Exactly. I'm actually trying to set that up. I I was like, "You know, we've got some good um, video conferencing technology that the company uses. How do we set up language exchanges within the company?" You know, and talk about business.
Yeah, that's true.
Just talk about it in a different language. And if all you can say is like, "How's work? Work is good." There you go.
You did something.
Yeah, that was actually, if if people wanted to know a way to um, break into a conversation, uh, uh, in a language that they're just learning, here's a good phrase to learn. How's work? A lot of time, the the as we're first learning languages and we're not so incorporated into the community, we're running into service workers who speak those languages.
So, whenever I don't speak very much Amharic at all. But I whenever I go to the parking garage next to our next to our office, a lot of them are Ethiopian. So, I say, "Siran dipno." How's work?
Right.
And uh, and all of a sudden they're like, "What?" And so then they tell me. And I was like, "I don't know what you just said." And then they say it more slowly. And then I try to remember it. And I'm trying to, and the cars behind me are honking because I'm taking too long. And uh,
That's funny. Yeah.
But they, but then they hold up the line. Then they keep talking to me. They're like, and the people are honking, and I feel bad. But the person working there doesn't feel bad at all.
Right. That's a very quick language exchange, but an example of one.
Do it. Do it. Two minute, you know, I'll I'll add, you know, Benny says, make a hundred mistakes a day. I say, have a hundred 15-second conversations a day. You know? How's work? Good. Nice to meet you. And then move on. You say that a hundred, if you say that a hundred times a day, you will become fluent in a in a year because all of a sudden you realize that just saying, "How's work?" is boring. And you'll start saying new things.
Yeah.
And you'll get a hundred different responses, and you have to learn those responses. And, you know, do 100 15-second conversations a day.
Yeah.
Do it, you know. You'll you'll you'll learn really well.
Yeah, and that's um, I hope that other people are seeing the value of that. Uh, I definitely need to get better at it. I'm trying now with the restaurants and the cafes and wherever I'm going to order stuff. Even if you just say one word, it it it's progress, you know. Uh, the other day I I wanted to just ask for the bill. And I just I just just said, "Bill." You know, and he he was like, "Oh, okay." You know. I could have said, "Could I please have the bill?" Uh, I could probably say that now. But back then, I didn't know how. So, I just said, uh, "Bill." And he was, "Oh, he understands me." And maybe it's slightly rude, but they understand that I'm not a native speaker exactly. So,
Well, and you know, there's another thing, there's another thing you can do that I've, you know, one of the things I like is, I like Moses McCormick and how he just comes up with a lie to start a conversation.
Yeah, that's everything. That's great.
My favorite thing is like, "Is there is there an arcade in this mall?" I love that how he like uses that to start. Like, "Is there a movie theater in the mall?" You know, he just walks around the mall. And, um, you know, faking it is also because here's the thing you can say is like, when he brings the bill, you're like, "I know that's not really a polite way to say that. Could you tell me how to say it politely?" How what's a polite way to ask for the bill? And he's like, "Oh my goodness, not only a a a tourist, but a tourist who wants to speak Hungarian, and a and a tourist who wants to be polite."
Yeah.
You know,
Yeah, and then you don't see that often.
Exactly. So, you learn and then it's like, what a nice, what a nice young man. And so, then and then you learn that. You just scored points with that guy. And then, um, you know, it's but, you know, I I'm learning, I'm spending five minutes a day on Memrize learning Basque. So, I've, you know, I've got a vocabulary about 10 words or whatever. And I've got a Basque speaker living in my house, an exchange student. So, I just do it. You know how babies, they just kind of say like random words and random sounds.
So, all this, you know, all this be walking down the stairs, and I'll say, I'll just say, "Fat girl." Which she's jok, we always joke because in coming to the States, the thing she was most afraid of was getting fat because of Americans and how we eat and don't exercise.
Yeah.
And so, I just say that. And then she like kind of gives me a bad look. But I just say, "Fat girl." And I'm like, "No, I'm just saying it. I'm not I'm not saying that to anybody." Or, you know, I'll say like, or, you know, when it's time to eat, you know, I yell like, "Come here. Etorri ona." And, you know, like, "Come on." And, um, and uh, uh, and then and then she'll correct and occasionally I'll learn vocabulary because I'll be saying something so badly, she can't help herself but correct me.
Oh, right. Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, because I'm because I was saying like, "Come on. Come on, girl. Come on, girl." You know, something like that. And she's like, "Girlz." You know? And, um, because it's just getting annoying to her now. And, um,
That's funny.
So, you know, so if all I know is how to say like, so I'll, you know, we'll ride in the car. And I'll just be like, saying my my vocabulary. Tall, short, rich, poor, ugly, beautiful. And just go down my list. Why not, you know?
That's funny.
And, uh, you could but you can totally do that. If you go to, um, I knew a Russian guy when I was in uh, when I lived in Ukraine. Super like, super poor guy. Like, no education. The guy was literally a a street sweeper in the Eastern European sense of it, where he had a giant broom and he would sweep the streets with a broom. Okay. Young guy. He knew one word of English. And that was, "Yes." And so, I would talk to him in Russian and stuff. And then he would answer, and he would say, "Yes."
Right.
That's that's how you say "Da," right? And, you know, and he would like make sure he was saying it right, you know. And that's all he knew was, "Yes." And, um, and back then, I thought, that's kind of it's kind of getting annoying to me. But now that I look back, and I'm like, "Rich, no, that's not annoying. That's him trying."
Yeah.
"Give him a break, man." And so, I know that like, if anyone is annoyed with me because I'm using my two words of the language, it's their problem, not mine. They're just they're just having they're just grumpy. Um, the point is just go and use those two words. And if they find it grumpy if they get grumpy about it, then I smile, and then I say, "Thank you very much." In the language, and then I move on, you know. And, uh, you know, just you just get out there, and you just do it. And, um, and have a good time. And not just have a good time because a lot of us want to have a good time. Help someone else have a good time.
Yeah, exactly.
Think about how things are going to be easier for them. Think about how, you know, a waiter has to speak the language a different language all day long. It's exhausting. You can take orders in your native language all day long. You're going to have an easier day.
And mistakes are perfect. Like, uh, I was in McDonald's a few weeks back. And instead of ordering a large fries, which I was trying to do, which is "nøgle" uh, something. I already forgot that. Uh, I said "nøjorn," which is very. So, I said, "I'd like very fries, please." And he was like, "I know what this guy's trying to say. I'm bringing him a large fries, you know." He wasn't like, "What?" So,
Right.
So, but mistakes are obviously easy to make. But the point is just like, if you had said it.
As long as there are a hundred a day.
Yeah, exactly. Just keep keep making mistakes. And I I I guess I was just citing I was just a perfectionist. And I I I if anything, I can I hope to tell people out there that being a perfectionist is the is the worst thing you can be when learning a language. Uh, because it listen, you're already terrible at the language. So, you're already making, you're already making your fool out of yourself in a way. In a good way. So, why are you worried about speaking it speaking the right grammar or speaking the right endings or something when your pronunciation is obviously going to give it away right away that you're not a native speaker? Um, you just hold your progress so much if you wait for that perfect sentence. And it's probably not even perfect because the thing is, you won't say it until you think it's perfect. But your knowledge of the language is so limited that you don't know if it is perfect anyway. So, you might as well just say whatever comes to mind.
And, you know, uh, Connor Grooms was on the podcast a few episodes back, and he did a a month of Spanish to see how much could you learn in a month. And he got advice from Benny Lewis, and one of the tips was, "Don't worry about grammar. Don't conjugate verbs because there's no time." If you want to learn how to speak fast in a month and have a really high really nice conversation, conjugating verbs doesn't make any sense in Spanish. You just whatever. You just say, "I go." You know, "I eat." You know, just use one form and get out there.
Uh-huh. Yeah. I, you know, it's funny you say that because I've I've said that I've given that specific advice. I didn't hear it from Benny, but I gave that specific advice to to people who are like, "Oh, my Spanish is not that good." And I said, "I'm going to tell you the one thing that your Spanish teacher not only didn't, but couldn't tell you." Which is, you can speak Spanish using only infinitives.
Yeah.
You can just use infinitives all the time. Because look, I hear people I hear people speak English with completely incorrect grammar. And guess what? I totally understand them.
Exactly. That's the point.
Every sentence they speak has a grammatical error. And it it's working just fine. You know, we understand. And so, just start stringing words together, and they'll start understanding.
And, you know, and the other thing about perfectionism, here's something that really, um, struck me. I mean, one of the things that really shifted my way of understanding languages is is having children and watching them learn languages. And I was teaching them, um, Russian. And they were going to a Russian class once a week. When they were really little, they they my oldest, she started when she was three. They're a year and a half apart. And so, they were going to, um, uh, uh, so they were going to this Russian school from age about four 'til about seven. They would go once a week. And, um, I would uh, and, you know, I was trying one time to get them to like say the right cases because the cases came out all jumbled. Um, their verb conjugations were wrong and stuff. And, um, you know, they would say like, "Yaz Naish." And, you know, like, just like, totally wrong. And they, you know, "Dyevushka," was always "Dyevushka." The ending didn't change or no, I think actually, "Dyevushka," was always "Dyevushku." It was always "Dyevushku." Like, the ending never changed and stuff. And and and adjectives didn't agree. And I'm like, "Oh my goodness, like this is we are really doing something wrong because this Russian's coming out like complete garbage." So, I was talking to their teacher about like, "Yeah, you know, when when uh, uh, when their their verbs come out all funny, you know." And he's like, "Yeah, our kids are funny."
What I found out that that's Russian. Native Russian kids do that. And then I and here's the thing. I'm like, "Oh, and when I was in Ukraine, um, you're learning Russian. So, you know the the the the beautiful genitive plural. And, you know, and how many weeks you spend doing genitive plural?" I was there, there was my, I was with my friend who was with her niece, who was 11 or 12. And she said, "Pyat etazhov." Five stories. And her aunt corrected her, "Etazhey." Okay. 12 years old, she messed up the genitive plural. And I'm like, "Oh, the reason why you and me, Chris, spend so much time during the genitive plural is because it's objectively difficult. Native speakers spend 12 years and they still make mistakes."
Right.
Right? They don't get all the rules. And so, and so when the teacher said like, "Aren't kids funny?" It's because three-year-olds don't understand the cases either.
Yeah, it's a process.
Four-year-olds. So, if we're like, "Oh, crap, my my um, my uh, cases are wrong. My conjugations are wrong." Well, yeah, because it takes a native speaker eight years to learn them. They're objectively hard. You know, be easy on yourself. And so, that's what I'm like, "Forget grammar." I mean, it's uh, um, I learned grammar, but I learned it as I needed it. But guess what? So did my babies.
Yeah.
You know? My babies couldn't get the difference between me and you when they were two years old.
Yeah, exactly.
They would say, "You, you, you." Instead of "Me." Because that's what I said. I said, "You," to them. They don't understand the difference between deixis and, you know, reference. So, it's like, "Be easy on yourself." Because like, um, you know, when I was at the the worst experience I had was my first day of school as an exchange student in France. I couldn't find out even where I was supposed to go. I was completely lost. And so, I I was flustered. And I asked a teacher how to get where I needed to go. And it's and I used "Tu" instead of "Vous." And like, I you know, and it was just like, just and it was I was flustered. It wasn't coming out clearly. And she was trying to get to her class, and it was just bad. And so, she's like, "Yeah, it's over there." I'm like, it was uh, you know, just kind of vaguely gestured in a direction. And I'm like, "Okay, Rich, that didn't work." Um, so, let's do this. I'm going to be here for five months. My goal by the end of five months is to sound like an intelligent five-year-old.
Right.
If I can sound like an intelligent five-year-old in five months, that's actually very efficient. My, you know, I'm barely at year, you know, age two when I first arrived in France, you know, my French is not good. And, um, now I speak, I can speak French fluently. And I got to fluent by the end. And, um, you know, I lived with three girls who were always insulting each other. So, I know how to insult people and hold my own if I, you know, if I'm being insulted by a a teenage girl.
Great.
You know, that's something I I, you know, I don't I don't think it would work very well if I, you know, if I was in a bar in France or something like that. I don't know if I would sound very good if I was defending myself there. But, you know, I could hold myself to hold my own for for to some extent. And, uh, you know, just saying like, "I just want to be an intelligent five-year-old after five months of living in the country." You know, I just want to, and this is the thing, if it's about us, this is, I think where perfectionism comes in. If it's about us, then we get uh, uh, we get really nervous. When it's about somebody else, we don't get nearly as nervous.
Right.
This is what I tell myself, when I do public speaking, I do quite a bit of of public speaking about languages and things like that. And I said, "You know what? Once I start feeling nervous, it's because I want to sound smart. I don't want to sound stupid. I don't want to drop the ball. I don't want to I don't want to be uninvited back." You know, But when I say like, "Hey, I mean, I even did this when I was a professor before. Hey, I know a bunch of stuff. And I know these people are coming because they're interested in learning about what I have to say. I want to make sure I give them as much information as I possibly can. I want them to leave knowing something they didn't know before." And so, when it comes to languages, it's like, "I want to give this guy a story he's going to go home and tell his wife about. Guess what I saw today?"
Yeah, that's true, yeah.
"The white guy is speaking Somali. And he was really bad, but can you believe that?" Um,
Yeah, that's true, yeah.
But, you know, give him a story. Give the, you know, the the the the waiter in the cafe. You know, give him a story. It's like, "There's this guy. And he kept asking me about like how to say this, this and this." And I had sometimes, here's one thing that's interesting. When you start asking questions about Hungarian, the average Hungarian doesn't spend a lot of time thinking about Hungarian grammar.
That's true. Yeah.
You know. And so, you start asking questions. They're like, "I never realized that about my own about my own language." You just offered them a gift. They they just had a a wonderful experience because you were learning their language. That's cool. It's helpful. And, um, we can do that so much. And, um, you know, uh, uh, um, asking about the, you know, different, you know, Chinese dialects. You know, uh, I've asked. And they're like, "Oh, yeah." And they you know, they talk about these, you know, things that they don't talk about or haven't thought about or, um, you know, you can you can really, um, bring some delight to people.
You know, I had a one of my people I work with, I was just telling him about Somali poetry. Somalia has a wonderful history of poetry. I mean, uh, Dr. Richard Burton, when he was uh, traveling through the Middle East and, uh, and East Africa, um, he visited some some uh, uh, Somali shepherds. And they, um, had a big feast. And they had a big festival for him. And they sat him down, and they recited poetry to him for eight hours.
Wow.
You know, they just performed poetry. And the the the the average shepherd, actually, I was talking to somebody, um, in the Twin Cities about poetry and about and about proverbs and stuff. And they were like, "Yeah, but I come from the city." If you really want to know poetry, "You know, you got to come from the country and the shepherds. They're the ones who really know poetry."
That's interesting. It's like different from
It's awesome. So then my friend was my friend was at a cashier at the at the grocery store. And mentioned and saw this person was Somalian. And told her like how much he'd heard about the Somali, you know, uh, uh, poetry. Just that he knew about it. And this person was so happy that he about Somali poetry. It doesn't take much, right? It doesn't take much.
And that's the thing like when I went to, um, so, you know, I I, you know, if if Chris, I can challenge you, you know, before you go to Greece, you know, with with Memrize, you know, you can put your goals at different things. You do a 1500 uh, uh, point uh, uh, goal, it ends up being about five minutes a day. Right? So, three months before you go to, you go to Greece, go to Thessaloniki, start doing Memrize with Greek. Five minutes a day. You will not be fluent. No one is no one fluent in five minutes a day, you know, neither of us buy that stuff. Right. But you go there, and you got a handful of words. You go there. And if you do the same like silly thing like I do, where you're just like, "Fat, skinny, tall, short." Like, "What are you doing?" You're like, "I'm just practicing." "Tell me how to." Then you say, "Tell me how to say this." You write it down in your notes. And then the next person say like, and you just go up there and you say, "Here's this. Did I say it right?"
It's uh, also about just uh, learning the script, it's one thing, right? Because there's so many Greek words in English or other languages that just by learning the script, you'll start to notice a lot of the words. Right. And uh, so that's the first thing I do. I I probably spent some time on it. Yeah, you're right. A few months before. And uh, and just just do it because I've uh, I've never studied any of it, so I've no idea.
That's in between learning Kurdish, of course.
Right. Uh, we'll we'll see if that makes the list. Um, I feel so uh, spoiled for choice right now. When I started learning languages back in Denmark, I was like, what should I learn? I was so confused. And now I was like, I have so many great reasons to learn so many languages, you know. Uh, there's the, uh, there's the the Hungarian obviously because I live here. The Russian because I already learned it sort of. And, you know, we're going to Greece. Uh, I have many friends in many languages now. So, I want to talk to that person. I want to talk to that person. And, you know, the the list is just ever growing. I I have a I have a client from the Middle East, from Abu Dhabi. So, I'm like, I should learn some some Arabic. And the list just grows, you know. And any time you hear something, you fall in love with it. And you're like, "Oh my God, that sounds beautiful."
Yeah, I know we're not we're not going to learn, yeah. There's what we get to another, um, 6,990 to go, you know, whatever many we got after our first ten, you know.
Yeah.
I thought of an idea for when we go to uh, uh, Thessaloniki. If I'm able to go, God willing. But, um, what if we got we found, um, some uh, Kurd who could give a uh, you know, who could do a meal with us? You know, we get a group of people and over lunch or something like that, just give us a a a 45-minute lesson in Kurdish?
Right.
What if we got uh, uh, a 45-minute lesson in Arabic? What if we just lined up a couple of those things? Because here's why I say that. When I I had a work trip to Lisbon one time. And they wanted me to be working US hours. So, my mornings were free.
Right.
So, I hunted and hunted and hunted to find private Portuguese teachers. And I would schedule a 90-minute lesson uh, uh, each day that I was in Lisbon. So, in the morning, I would have my my Portuguese lesson. And then I'd kind of see the sights or whatever. And then I'd have to show up at work around noon or something like that. And then I'd go into work. And the other workers, I would start off the day by speaking Portuguese to all my coworkers. And, um, you know, they're all fluent in English at least. I mean, most of them were three knew three or four languages. They were on uh, uh, a a a service desk. We we outsourced service desk, and we had a desk in Lisbon. And, um, but they don't get to speak to very many people from the US in Portuguese. So, I thought that was cool. And I came home, and I was able to speak low Portuguese on the on the subway in New York.
But Chris, we should totally organize that. I don't think that'd be very hard to do. Um, if uh, um, maybe if uh, any of the listeners know of Kurdish or Arabic speakers in Thessaloniki, especially ones with a background, because the thing is, is a lot of the refugees are, um, some of the better-educated people. And so, there might even be language teachers there.
Yeah.
In Thessaloniki. And we could do a 40, we could just do a 45-minute lesson, um, tell us, you know, how to say some basic uh, phrases in your language. Tell us about your language. Why you love your language. And tell us a little bit about your you, you know, if you're willing, talk about yourself and your your family situation. And then we can bring a little bit of, um, some of the, you know, learning community languages out into the practical, uh, um, uh, uh, day-to-day as we're in uh, Thessaloniki.
Yeah.
You know, Do you think that you think your listeners might be listeners. Listeners, I'm addressing you now. If you're interested, tell Chris, tell me, come to my blog, come to uh, Chris's blog. Let us know what you might be interested in, um, if that might be something fun for you to do. Um,
Yeah, yeah.
Because I know, look, because I'm telling all the listeners right now, if you don't show up, I'm going by myself because this sounds very cool to me. I think Chris will, I think Chris will probably join me, but if you want to come with us and have a good time, I think we could, I think we could really learn something and make a connection with a community there that we may not have uh, been able to communicate with or connect with otherwise.
This is actually uh, a big topic that is usually done at the Polyglot Gathering in Berlin. They usually have language introductions, so a a talk of about 55 minutes in very uh, a variety of languages. So, I mean, this has been done. So, I'm I'm sure that the concept applies. So, if we can just find the time, maybe we could schedule some kind of social event after or before. Or maybe we just do it in sort of like a pub or a restaurant or something that we could have a nice meal and and and do a little social event. Then yeah, definitely.
Or you know, they might even get someone at the actual conference to come and have a talk on those languages around uh, around uh, Thessaloniki because if, you know, if the influence is that big, then it's obvious to sort of invite the local culture, which is what they do at every place they go. Like in uh, Novi Sad, they had speakers to come and talk about the local culture and language. It was the, you know, the the local cultural center who sponsored the whole thing. But still, you know, the the point of the Polyglot conference going different places and not just, you know, New York, London, and Beijing or whatever, is to sort of explore the local communities. So, what I'll definitely do and I I think you should work on that idea as well, but I'll definitely tell Alex and Richard that it could be really cool to have language introductions or at least language, some kind of presentation on the local languages that are uh, that are popular there.
Cool. Cool. Albanian. Albanian would be one, too. There's a lot of Albanians there. Albanian, Kurdish, Arabic for people who are who's mouth is watering for uh, uh, some interesting. You know, you know what, actually, there might be, um, I wonder if we could find some, hey, here's we're going to have to do some research on this one, but you got a lot of listeners. What about um, Aramaic? I bet some uh, modern Aramaic speakers. Because a lot of the northern a lot of the the Northern Syrians are, um, are uh, uh, Aramaic speakers. And I've met some and stuff like that.
And uh, um, I actually visited Ma'loula, um, which was a a an Aramaic speaking town. It it was the what was it, about a year ago, there was a lot of problems there unfortunately. Um, and so a lot of the the people who are there before, one of the oldest monasteries in Syria was in Ma'loula, and there were Aramaic speakers. They did part of the liturgy in Aramaic and stuff like that. There could possibly be some speakers, um, in uh, um, in in Greece. So, um,
I'm looking forward to talking about that.
I need to do some research about that.
report it a lot. And I, no matter what, we'll we'll have a great time, no matter what what we figure out. Um, I'll be flying there because um, I'm lucky that my local airline has a direct flight and Oh, really. Cost like nothing. Yeah. I don't know why, but, you know, the local Hungarian Wizz Air, they they have a flight there. And when I looked at the prices, uh, when the last conference was over, it's like, you know, $50 return. So, there you go.
Yeah, I I think I I think I pay probably uh, I I pay more than that in taxes for my plane ticket. So, uh,
Yeah, I that's the problem with going across the Atlantic. It's it's expensive. But it does get slightly more epic. You know, if I just fly like 45 minutes or an hour, it's like, oh, okay, I'm still in Europe, you know. Yeah. But flying nine hours across the Atlantic, then suddenly you're in a different world, which is which is cool.
Oh, yeah. Yeah, no, it's exciting. I mean, there there um, yeah, I don't know, there uh, it it I went you went I went there um, last summer like I said. And we had to fly via um, there are direct flights to major cities in Europe. But then we had to change. So, we just changed in Amsterdam and then on the way back, changed in Paris. So, it's easy enough. But yeah, it's it's but yeah, I mean, it's definitely more of a commitment. You know,
Yeah, well, that's what we love to see. I mean, you should come to Berlin, as well.
Oh, man. You know, I've never been to Berlin. I have to say like, last time I spent any time in Berlin was shortly shortly before the wall fell. So, it was uh,
It has changed a little bit since then. Yeah.
or no, shortly after, shortly after the wall fell. That's right.
It has changed a little bit since then. Yeah.
Um, they uh, they really like, you know, the cafelattes now and it's very gentrified. So,
That's right.
No, I uh, uh, you know, I was in I was in Kiev, uh, when I lived there. It was just two years after uh, the the fall of the the the Soviet Union. And I look I look at like, I look at photos of places that I went to all the time. And I look at them, and I like I I literally I'm like, I have to ask my old friends because folks your age don't remember when the Kiev that I remember existed. That was really when I taught in Ukraine, it was so funny because I was telling them what it was like under the Soviet system. I was I'm American. I was telling what it was like in Ukraine under the communists. And because they, you know, they they don't. I mean, I know more than they do in some ways because I was there.
Um, so, yeah, things change a lot. But yeah, I Berlin was like on the on the edge back in my day. So, I would love to go to Berlin. I'd love to visit Berlin and see. And, uh, spend time in.
Polyglot Gathering May early May, I think. It's for a few days.
You know, and the thing is that my my cousin is he he, um, he likes traveling. He's not a language person. I tease him because he's he doesn't try on languages, but he is a a traveling teacher. He teaches at international schools. And, uh, he spent two years in Chennai in uh, in India. I know. And I kept wanting to visit. I never got around to it. And now he's in Vilnius in Lithuania, which is just a hop, skip and a jump from uh, Berlin. So, um,
Yeah.
there's, you know, once you know seven prefixes, you got a lot.
Yeah.
And they look like prepositions anyway. So, Exactly. And that so besides "Pisatch" is to write, but "opissatch" is to describe. Um, you know, and uh, so it's it's it's cool how it how it, um, and it makes you think about language in general because like "dumat" is to think, and then "peredumat" is think again or reconsider, which is Exactly. So, you just say, "Think again." Or you can insert any prefix, you know. Um, and and change the meaning, which is really cool. And if you don't know the word, you can still try and use it. And they'll some they'll probably understand you even though the word isn't being used or that particular combination doesn't work. They'll probably still understand you, which I find very fascinating. Well, yeah, because it makes me think. I think there's a word "zadumat." "Zadumat," which is means like consider all consider all the way through. Right. So, that's what you say, you can say this, you can say this to your kid, you know. "Ni podumay eto." Or like, "You know, don't think that through."